Still Energetically Attached to an Ex
I keep having dreams about my past companion, and with them comes the same old pain and suffering that I thought I had moved beyond. I do not feel this way during the day, so it feels strange. What can I do to truly let go
I decided to ask a more general question about still being emotionally and energetically attached to a past companion, not just focusing on the pain that keeps resurfacing. Here is the response I received.
When it comes to still feeling attached to a past companion, it is important to understand that the energy of a relationship does not simply disappear when the relationship ends. That energy can linger, showing up in your dreams, thoughts, and even your emotions. This is a common experience, and it is part of the healing process.
If you still feel attached, it likely means there are parts of you that have not yet fully let go. Emotional attachment can remain due to unresolved feelings or wounds that need attention. These feelings may surface in your dreams or memories, but this does not necessarily mean you are still connected to that person. It is simply your inner self trying to heal the lingering emotions.
The key to letting go of this emotional attachment is to release it consciously. Start by recognizing that you are holding onto something that no longer serves you. Even though you may not consciously feel this attachment during the day, the subconscious mind continues to process past experiences, which is why dreams often bring up unresolved emotions.
To release this attachment, it is essential to acknowledge and accept your emotions. It is important to feel the emotions as they arise, but not to allow them to control you. Allow yourself to feel sadness, anger, or grief, but also remind yourself that these emotions are temporary. They do not define where you are now; they are simply echoes of the past.
A powerful way to let go is through mindful self-reflection and emotional release. Understand that the relationship was a chapter in your life, providing you with lessons and growth, but it no longer defines who you are. It is important to forgive both yourself and your past companion for any unresolved pain. This does not mean excusing any hurtful actions, but rather releasing yourself from carrying that emotional burden.
Next, you can imagine cutting the energetic cords that connect you to your past companion. Picture these connections dissolving, leaving you free to move forward. You do not have to do this alone—taking time to meditate or find a quiet moment before sleep can help calm your mind and make this process more effective.
Shift your focus from the past to the present. Surround yourself with activities, people, and environments that make you feel happy, supported, and uplifted. When you focus on the present, the past begins to lose its hold on you. It may still appear in your thoughts from time to time, but with practice, it will have less power over your daily life.
If you continue to have dreams or thoughts about your past companion, gently remind yourself that these are only memories, and they no longer hold any control over your life. When your mind tries to pull you back to those moments, kindly redirect your thoughts to what brings you peace and joy.
Letting go of the energy that ties you to a past companion is not about forgetting them or erasing the past. It is about freeing yourself from emotional and energetic ties that hold you back from fully living in the present. Healing happens when you acknowledge the past, release the attachment, and move forward with an open heart.
